My father is a very stubborn and megalomaniac man. I'm not close to him because of his
actions in the past. He will never admit that he needs help and that he doesn't depend on
anyone, so he has stayed with my grandmother for almost 12 years, making out with her
and making up stories about how crazy my grandmother is. He kept pushing her into a
nursing home for years, and now she has no choice but to move into a nursing home due to
her recent dementia diagnosis and she can't walk on her own. My aunt has my
grandmother's best interests at heart. She is also my mother. My aunt is a wonderful person,
I became her legal representative 7 years ago. In 2022 I visited her for her birthday and her
disgusting house. My dad says "he won't let me clean" which is a total lie because my dad
never cleans himself and makes my mom clean when she's done working two jobs. You can
see why she divorced him... My grandmother ended up with E. coli. So my sister and
cousins had to do a deep cleaning of the house. While my dad is sitting there. My
grandmother was able to take care of herself for a while, but as she got older, she got worse
by constantly moving and falling. My aunt had to take out a loan to help her get into a good
nursing home and she had to sell her house. Years ago, my aunt paid for her house. She also
has 43 acres of wetlands. So, my aunt is nervous because none of her siblings will
contribute. My older uncle passed away, my other uncle's income is low, and my father
refuses to get a job. So my aunt gave him 31 days to come out and he turned it down and
laughed about it. So, I called my sister and told her that we refuse to let him live with any
of us because he makes us feel very uncomfortable and we don't trust him with our
children. We will help try to get him out, but we will not help him financially. He'd done
this before, so it wasn't like he was unlucky enough to refuse to ask for help. He did the
same thing with my mother's house when she sold our childhood home. She there she sat
until they took him off the property. She refuses to leave because she said "She wants to
have her in the family, and I deserve this house because I take care of her" again a big lie
because she came every day, he also refuses to take her anywhere. So, my aunt had to drive
63 miles just to run her errands. My aunt and uncle tried to reason with him and he offered
$1,300 to move in and a free old wagon. Now they have declined his offer because what he
did was heartbreaking. He dumped all my grandmother's furniture and clothes and
sentimental things out in the snow and told my aunt to come get the shit out of him. They
were angry and I am also angry. My grandmother doesn't deserve this. So now they are
trying to take legal action. I don't know if Minnesota has squatter rights and there are no
housing agreement papers. Yes, he lived there for 12 years, but he almost tore the house
down while my grandmother was living with him and blocked the door. I want to help my
aunt but financially I cannot help her in her condition. ☹ Any advice?